During the holiday did you see a friend and wondered why you hadn’t seen him/her more often during the year? Did you find yourself saying, “Wish we could get together more often…” For most of us, we’re so busy that time gets away from us.
But isn’t it worth taking time for our friends?
Isn’t that what life is all about … relationships?
With the New Year around the corner, strive to be better about staying connected to those you enjoy being with. While your schedule may limit how many times you can meet in person, you can easily stay connected using technology – send a text, tweet, post on FaceBook or Skype. There’s really no excuse not to stay connected.
Since we often begin the New Year with good intentions but then fall short – mainly because our goals are overzealous – here are some helpful ways to stay connected to those you enjoy being with:
1. Identify one friend you want to see more throughout the year. Starting with one friend to focus on will ensure you accomplish your goal. Let’s take Sarah, who used to see her good friend, Jane, several times a week before life got busy. Sarah is busy juggling her career and 3 young children. Jane is divorced and travels often for business. For the past several years, they always say “wish we could get together more often…” This year, they decided to make it happen.
2. Decide how you will communicate with your friend to stay connected. Some people prefer texting. Others prefer email. Technology brings many options for staying connected. Be receptive and flexible in communication.
3. Decide how often you will reach out to your friend. Going back to our example, Sarah and Jane both have hectic schedules. They decide they can realistically get together only twice a year but agree to stay in touch monthly.
4. Begin reaching out. If you need a reminder, put it on your calendar. Some friendships can easily stop and start. Others take work, especially if you’re in different places in life. If the relationship is important enough to both of you, you’ll find a way to grow your friendship.
Friendship, like any relationship, takes time and effort from both parties. Stay open to changes and watch your friendship grow. And next year, you won’t be saying, “wish we could get together more often…”
ABOUT THE AUTHOR:
Niv Persaud, CFP®, CDFA™, CRPC®, is the Founder of Transition Planning & Guidance, LLC. Her firm bridges the gap between financial planning and coaching. As a Transition Consultant, she offers sage advice in all aspects of life – financial, personal and professional. Niv does not manage money and does not sell financial products. Her services include spending plan development, divorce financial review, life strategy and professional progression. Niv actively gives back to her community through her volunteer efforts. She believes in living life to the fullest by cherishing friendships, enjoying the beauty of nature and laughing often — even at herself. Her favorite quote is by Erma Bombeck, “When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left and could say ‘I used everything you gave me’.”