How many times do you ask, “Can we reschedule?”
Yes, life can be hectic but have you ever thought about how your request impacts the other person?
Many times we assume our family members or friends will understand.
If you ask every once in a while – yes, absolutely you can expect them to understand.
But if you are rescheduling more times than keeping what was planned, then you’re expecting a lot from these relationships.
Before scheduling anything else, take a minute and ask yourself, “Why am I always rescheduling commitments?”
Here are five common reasons.
1- “This person is not important to me.”
If this person is not important to you, then why are you making plans with him/her? If this person is important to you, then take a moment to re-frame your perspective. Try to see your request from the other person’s perspective. When you constantly reschedule, you’re saying that your needs are more important than keeping your commitment with this family member or friend. Is this message what you truly mean?
2- “This person reminds me of a conflict I want to continue avoiding.”
Does this person know that you want to avoid this conflict? If not, then it’s time to come clean. If this relationship is important to you, then be open in your communication. This person may have a way to help you cope with this conflict or he/she may even be willing not to bring up the topic when you get together.
3- “My workload is unpredictable.”
If you know your workload is unpredictable during the day, then don’t schedule lunches with friends or family members. Schedule these commitments in the evenings or on the weekends. If your workload is unpredictable all the time, then schedule a short call or Skype. Communicate that even though things are busy at work, they are important to you and you’d like to catch-up during a call. Make these calls short enough so you don’t have to reschedule.
4- “Things keep coming up.”
Bottom line, are you saying you have poor time management skills? If you enjoy frustrating your family members and friends, keep doing the same thing. If you want to be more reliable, then find ways to change this bad habit. If you promised to meet your friend for lunch on a Saturday, then block off on your calendar two hours before and two hours after lunch to make sure you leave enough time to spend with this friend.
5- “I have health issues.”
If you have health issues then communicate this reason with your family members and friends. They will understand. Sometimes illnesses take our energy. Sometimes medications have an adverse effect. Unfortunately, these situations are all part of life. If someone truly cares about you, they will understand this reason. But if you don’t communicate this reason, you may run the risk of them becoming annoyed with you or even feeling that they are no longer important to you.
If a relationship is important to you, then make time to spend with that person. Even if spending time is a 15-minute phone call. Think twice before asking, “Can we reschedule?” — reflect on how often you ask this question and how it will impact the other person.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR:
Niv Persaud, CFP®, CDFA™, CRPC®, is the Founder of Transition Planning & Guidance, LLC. Her firm bridges the gap between financial planning and coaching. As a Transition Consultant, she offers sage advice in all aspects of life – financial, personal and professional. Niv does not manage money and does not sell financial products. Her services include spending plan development, divorce financial review, life strategy and professional progression. Niv actively gives back to her community through her volunteer efforts. She believes in living life to the fullest by cherishing friendships, enjoying the beauty of nature and laughing often — even at herself. Her favorite quote is by Erma Bombeck, “When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left and could say ‘I used everything you gave me’.”