Are you satisfied with your personal relationships or do you need to improve them? We’re not talking about improving or changing the person. We’re talking about what you can control — how you interact with the person.
Personal relationships refer to all relationships with people in your life, including your parents, siblings, friends, spouse/partner, grandparents … you get the idea.
Do any of these relationships need to be improved?
Do you need to spend more time?
Do you need to back-off (maybe you’re too controlling)?
Do you need to listen more?
If there’s a personal relationship you want to improve this year, here are 3 easy steps to follow.
1. Identify your goal. Which relationship do you want to improve and how do you want to change your interaction. Pick only one (you’ve got the rest of your life to tackle the rest). Here are a few examples:
Strengthen my relationship with my spouse.
Build my circle of friends.
Spend more time with my grandmother.
2. Develop your plan. How will you know if you accomplished your goal? Identify a specific plan of action. Make it simple. Then define the frequency of your action. Here are some examples:
Schedule “date night” with my spouse at least once a month.
Join a new social organization and attend at least one event a month to meet new people.
Visit my grandmother at her nursing home every week and play her favorite card game with her.
3. Create your guide. You’ll need to guide yourself through this implementation. Set a monthly reminder with your goal. Next, schedule on your calendar reminders to implement you plan.
Goals are easily achieved if you take time to develop a plan and create a guide for implementation. With electronic calendars, there really is no excuse for not accomplishing your goals. Take a few moments now to go through the above steps. Isn’t your personal relationship worth it?
ABOUT THE AUTHOR:
Niv Persaud, CFP®, CDFA™, CRPC®, is the Founder of Transition Planning & Guidance, LLC. Her firm bridges the gap between financial planning and coaching. As a Transition Consultant, she offers sage advice in all aspects of life – financial, personal and professional. Niv does not manage money and does not sell financial products. Her services include spending plan development, divorce financial review, life strategy and professional progression. Niv actively gives back to her community through her volunteer efforts. She believes in living life to the fullest by cherishing friendships, enjoying the beauty of nature and laughing often — even at herself. Her favorite quote is by Erma Bombeck, “When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left and could say ‘I used everything you gave me’.”